Goals, Dreams, And Expectations.

I've come to realize that I'm an insightful bastard after all my years on this earth and the things I've gone through. I dig it, I love it, and I hope that my trials and tribulations may help others.

So during a conversation with a dear friend of mine last night, subjects came up and my calm brain came up with some good stuff. We're just friends so these are easy things to talk about and we don't really hold back. The subject of kids came up and it brought a lot of things into focus. I have my reasons for not having kids because there are certain prerequisites of that. I see people get together and bam there's a kid and then all of a sudden it's over.

I haven't tossed out the idea of having kids but I'm 40 and I keep myself pretty busy. Throw in some of my random health issues and currently it's not something that is on my radar. You see, I didn't have the best upbringing and I'm finally to a point where I feel comfortable talking about it a little. I never really had that stable home environment, dad left when I was 3 so I never really got that bond with a father figure until later in life. That alone kind of made me think kids weren't really in my future because I had no experience to go off of.

If I did have kids, I wouldn't ever want them to go through what I had to, so the first prerequisite is, Mom and Dad are together through thick and thin. Not just for us but for the environment that creates. The together forever is a goal in itself and that's hard to find in someone else. Everything is so disposable this day in age that if there is a bumble, they go there own way.

I'd love nothing more than to find my person and adore them for the rest of my days. That feeling of knowing you are sleeping next to your partner in life and then getting to wake up next to them everyday, that's what it is all about. Well then hopefully they feel the same way. That's a goal and at the same time it's a dream.

Here's where the insightful bastard comes in. Whatever in life happens, make an adventure out of it with your person. It's good to have goals and it's healthy to dream, as long as the dream is something obtainable, otherwise dreams can lead to expectations. Expectations can and will destroy everything and they are the most unhealthy part of anything in life. You can get yourself so lost in a dream that when it doesn't become reality, it'll crush you.

Have your goals, have your dreams, but don't let them get out of hand. The less you expect out of anything, the better the reward. You didn't reach for the stars and miss, you made it off the ground and anything more than that is a bonus.